Help any final tips?

[tris-]

on thursday im moving to the other end of the country on my own, and living in a place on my own.
mainly what im concerned with is making friends. ive already got my self booked in a martial arts class but i dont know what else to do apart from that. there could be hardly anyone there or theyre all cocks.
there is also the team at work (about 40 people or so), but they all seem a bit older than me (30s and 40s) and we might not get along socially.

i dont think its going to be as easy as it was at uni

 

[old.Tohtori]

Get settled, make food, wake up, get accustomed to life in new flat.

Weekend -> get out and sit in strangers tables. Don't think about it, just ask to sit and break the ice with "jsut moved infrom blaa..."

Best option; get laid

It's quite easy, just like moving in your home town.

Nest in and expand. Most important part is your flat. It's the base of operation and the place you hide in. It should become your ground zero where everything is just as you want it to be. Rest is just an adventure out of that place.

Oh and; stop thinking people are cocks

 

[Aoami]

try to put on a southern accent so people can understand what you're saying and dont be racist at you

 

[tris-]

Weekend -> get out and sit in strangers tables. Don't think about it, just ask to sit and break the ice with "jsut moved infrom blaa..."

does this actually work though?
maybe its just where im from, as youd probably get smashed in the face with a bottle or something.

 

[Aoami]

also, don't claim to be a prostitute, because you'll probably get murdered

 

[old.Tohtori]

does this actually work though?
maybe its just where im from, as youd probably get smashed in the face with a bottle or something.

If you just sit down and go "Hi! I'm a wanker!" then you'd probably get punched

Hang about the bar, strike u conversations randomly, sit at tables where there's for example only one guy at, cruise around the abr, make yourself seen so to speak and somewhere, somehow, you start discussions and make friends.

Best thing that can happen is that a chick sees you standing there looking like a lost puppy and has an allnighter on you.

What ever you do though, don't act unsocial(brood, stare at bottom of pint) and don't dismiss people on looks etc.

Don't go out to hook up, go out to talk to people.

 

[Aoami]

lol, right, cos that kind of thing happens on the regular in england

 

[old.Tohtori]

lol, right, cos that kind of thing happens on the regular in england

Anywhere in the world, anywhere in the world.

Same rules of social behavior work in every venue.

 

[Aoami]

seriously man, that shit just doesn't fly in england, people don't do it.

 

[old.Tohtori]

seriously man, that shit just doesn't fly in england, people don't do it.

What? Socialize? Talk to people?

I think the problem is in you, not england

 

[Aoami]

if someone is sat on their own at a table, it is VERY rare that someone will go and sit with them and talk to them.

People don't really go to the pub on their own, and that's one of the reasons tris is probably worried about making friends because it's something that just isn't done.

It might happen in Finland, but in England, it's really really not common, because people don't like it.

 

[tris-]

yes pretty much. i dont think that works in england too well.
although, older people always talk about how they moved out on their own and used to go clubbing on their own.

 

[Aoami]

but old people smell of wee and stuff so they don't count

 

[tris-]

there is a uni there, i wonder if i can sneak in and join some of their societies without being a student. it would be like that episode of peep show where mark becomes a history student.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well going to the local pisshole for a pint isn't "going out".

Go to clubs, places where people go solo etc.

 

[Wonk]

I thought you had...

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[TdC]

um, surely you could ask a person sitting by themselves, or ask a group of people about the town they're living in?

"Hi, I've just moved here and I was wondering if you guys had any tips for going out? (or sports, or super markets, or music venues or whatever). My name's <insert name> by the way." You need to know this stuff any way, and people usually know some stuff about their home town.

Talk to men, women, anyone. I know that some people are quieter, and some not. I am aware that I could potentially sit in a UK pub all day long without anyone coming near me, whereas recently in Germany everyone was talking to everyone else, and when I was in Ireland it was nearly impossible to get out of the pub due to being in so many conversations.

Ofc tris- is already going to a martial arts class, and I suppose he'll be chatting to like minded people in no time. It's nearly unavoidable in such a class, whereas for example a general fitness gym (imo) tends to be full of people doing their best to ignore each other.

 

[Moriath]

Tell them you know how to make a mean parmo

 

[Bahumat]

Hang about the bar, strike u conversations randomly, sit at tables where there's for example only one guy at.

Tris: Hi there.
Random: Hi...
Tris: I'm new in town, mind if I sit here?
Random: Yeah sure, where are you from?
Tris: That's not important. You fancy a bumming?
Random: Ooh yes please, and call me Laddey.

 

[Lamp]

Go to the local library (if they have one), slap your John Thomas on the counter and say "I think the last person who took this out made a mess on it...can you clean it for me please"

 

[tris-]

so basically if i take anyones advice here i will end up in prison

 

[Lamp]

prison's not so bad - ask Laddey. He turned out alright...

 

[Moriath]

make lots of new friends in prison .. all you have to do is drop the soap

 

[Bahumat]

make lots of new friends in prison .. all you have to do is drop the soap

It's like Bingo!

 

[Lamp]

Bingo should be compulsory for youngsters. Anyone aged 18-30 who gets house gets stripped naked, covered in jam, and licked clean by all the over 70s.

 

[Zenith]

It works in sweden ( talking to people that is, sitting at peoples tables ), so it should work in england. I have only tried out uni so far in england, so it doesnt really count

 

[Ch3tan]

Wow, so one guy from Finland and one from Sweden are telling English people how the social scene in English bars works. Astounding. Really, please do go and explain every facet of life in England, we obviously didn't realise all this time.

 

[Tasslehoff]

Wow, so one guy from Finland and one from Sweden are telling English people how the social scene in English bars works. Astounding. Really, please do go and explain every facet of life in England, we obviously didn't realise all this time.

Rofl, quit whining

 

[Ch3tan]

But it's just! Already we have said it doesn't work like that in this country outside of uni, and still people who don't live here are insisting it does. The power of the internet heh?

 

[Tilda]

Where are you moving to tris?

I graduated in 2007 and still play hockey for uni at weekends and train twice on week days. My social life is plenty full enough with that and the assorted socials. Good fun, good mates. Way forward imo!