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Wouldn't normally ask for this sort of help on here, as I know I'll probably get flak/useless/retarded answers or retorts back, but someone might have been in the same boat and able to offer some advice.
Little background : I met my wife when she was dating a friend of mine - it didn't work out (he cheated on her for someone else), and a few months later we hooked up, the rest is history - my life sentence is just over 18 months in . He was with his new fancypeice (lady A) for a couple of years - because he was still friends with our circle of folks and friends, we were civil and things were find as they were.
He then cheated on Lady A with Lady B about 6 months ago, and has been with B ever since.
Now, last week my wife contacts Lady A as some things were said at the start which were "not nice" and she just wanted to clear the air, she has one hell of a concience. IMO not the best idea in the world, but her choice. They got along, apologies were exchanged, no longer want to rip eachothers tits off. No problem.
Now, this "friend" of mine finds out they had contacted - i.e. Lady A appeared on my wife's MySpace (grrr!) friends list, and he kicks off, thinking theres a conspiracy etc etc. Then he sends my wife, to whom he'd been civil with previously lots of threats like "drop dead bitch" and "watch your back".
I don't care two hoots about this twat - he's a moron, and so far 3 women know about it. However, it's dragging my "best" friend into the matters. He doesn't want to lose contact with either party however is more intent on annoying us and saying its "our fault, our problem" rather than having a go at the twat and facing up to the fact he's a no good waste of space. Now the funny thing is, my best mate is still in contact and good friends with Lady A, which the Twat knows about - yet they went out together on Friday night, telling me and the wife he was at his works christmas do!
That doesn't make him much of a friend as far as I'm concerned and I suggested that me and the wife step back from that circle of friends so noone has to choose between friends - and he is now suprised that I'm looking to "terminate" 23 years of friendship and being like brothers.
Anyone have any advice on how to go forward? Generally up until now, my best mate and this twat have been going out and about without inviting us, keeping us separate etc, which has sort of worked, but have occasionally all got together for birthdays etc. However this time if I saw the twat, I'd likely floor him for the comments to my wife, however I know I'm better than that.
So far I've put the ball in his court and I don't think it's going to work. Pessimist as I am, I suspect we're going to be without this group of friends soon.
Little background : I met my wife when she was dating a friend of mine - it didn't work out (he cheated on her for someone else), and a few months later we hooked up, the rest is history - my life sentence is just over 18 months in . He was with his new fancypeice (lady A) for a couple of years - because he was still friends with our circle of folks and friends, we were civil and things were find as they were.
He then cheated on Lady A with Lady B about 6 months ago, and has been with B ever since.
Now, last week my wife contacts Lady A as some things were said at the start which were "not nice" and she just wanted to clear the air, she has one hell of a concience. IMO not the best idea in the world, but her choice. They got along, apologies were exchanged, no longer want to rip eachothers tits off. No problem.
Now, this "friend" of mine finds out they had contacted - i.e. Lady A appeared on my wife's MySpace (grrr!) friends list, and he kicks off, thinking theres a conspiracy etc etc. Then he sends my wife, to whom he'd been civil with previously lots of threats like "drop dead bitch" and "watch your back".
I don't care two hoots about this twat - he's a moron, and so far 3 women know about it. However, it's dragging my "best" friend into the matters. He doesn't want to lose contact with either party however is more intent on annoying us and saying its "our fault, our problem" rather than having a go at the twat and facing up to the fact he's a no good waste of space. Now the funny thing is, my best mate is still in contact and good friends with Lady A, which the Twat knows about - yet they went out together on Friday night, telling me and the wife he was at his works christmas do!
That doesn't make him much of a friend as far as I'm concerned and I suggested that me and the wife step back from that circle of friends so noone has to choose between friends - and he is now suprised that I'm looking to "terminate" 23 years of friendship and being like brothers.
Anyone have any advice on how to go forward? Generally up until now, my best mate and this twat have been going out and about without inviting us, keeping us separate etc, which has sort of worked, but have occasionally all got together for birthdays etc. However this time if I saw the twat, I'd likely floor him for the comments to my wife, however I know I'm better than that.
So far I've put the ball in his court and I don't think it's going to work. Pessimist as I am, I suspect we're going to be without this group of friends soon.