When you hit 50 your parents can start putting a lot of demands on you, whether you love them to bits or... don't. Now my Mum's gone, my wife's parents seem to have something that needs doing several times a week. At the same time as we're trying to look after our own kids. Middle-age is hard. It's no wonder that it's consistently found to be the time when people are least happy.Pulled the trigger on recalling my brother from Australia as there's a non-zero chance of the mother karking it.
In and of itself, that would seem like a "great, an extra person to help". But of course, it doesn't work like that. He's got massive mental health problems that unfortunately make him, effectively, an insufferable cunt. He also needs managing as he's incredibly fragile, unemployed (his flight cost me the best part of a grand) and probably substance dependent (probably alcoholic, maybe more).
Knock-on is my sister, who is fragile herself, is terrified of him coming home. So whilst she's holding it together now, she's requiring propping up. She's due to go on a cruise on Sunday with her husband for their 30th anniversary and was going to cancel, but I've told her to not feel guilty and go - 1) because non-zero doesn't mean definitely kark it and 2) gets her out of the way of brother.
Meanwhile, the only non-fragile fucker is me. Live 2 hours away. Work is madness. Builders, plumbers, electricians, heavy plant (a 13 tonne digger and dumper truck coming Friday (after 12 months of trying to get 'em)) are all on-site this week and have demands on my time., The o/h is having problems with her parents too and may have to be absent, which is a PITA for me as we've got the mandatory daily animal husbandry requirements.
Of course, I've got it handled. But it's really quite a lot of plates to spin.
Why can't people fucking hold themselves together ffs?
When you hit 50 your parents can start putting a lot of demands on you, whether you love them to bits or... don't. Now my Mum's gone, my wife's parents seem to have something that needs doing several times a week. At the same time as we're trying to look after our own kids. Middle-age is hard. It's no wonder that it's consistently found to be the time when people are least happy.
I haven't had a sibling to worry about for a long time but can sympathise with the demands of family, work and life in general getting a bit much.
Wish I’d moved to Galway tbh.Move to another country. Works like a charm
Why Galway out of interest?Wish I’d moved to Galway tbh.
I've not said alot on here about it, but this resonated. I'm now 56. In the past 6 month I've seen my GF's father go, my daughter in law's, my own Dad, and now my Mum (her funeral is tomorrow).When you hit 50 your parents can start putting a lot of demands on you, whether you love them to bits or... don't. Now my Mum's gone, my wife's parents seem to have something that needs doing several times a week. At the same time as we're trying to look after our own kids. Middle-age is hard. It's no wonder that it's consistently found to be the time when people are least happy.
I haven't had a sibling to worry about for a long time but can sympathise with the demands of family, work and life in general getting a bit much.
Had a holiday there ages ago and tried to persuade the wife it would be a great place to live but she wanted to be near her parents :/Why Galway out of interest?
I mean, I love the sea too. But specifically Galway.
Should be reasonably easy for your HR department to work out what you pension should be at now given growth and compounding interest, then make a payment into your pension pot to make up the shortfall and put you back on the straight and narrow.
Of course, their obvious counter would be "why didn't you spot you weren't making extra contributions? Did you not look at your payslip?"...
...to which your answer might be (like me) - Payslip? I don't think I've ever looked at it.
I've not said alot on here about it, but this resonated. I'm now 56. In the past 6 month I've seen my GF's father go, my daughter in law's, my own Dad, and now my Mum (her funeral is tomorrow).
Guess what? My GF has also been diagnosed with Leukaemia, though she is doing really well, thank someone.
*hugs*I've not said alot on here about it, but this resonated. I'm now 56. In the past 6 month I've seen my GF's father go, my daughter in law's, my own Dad, and now my Mum (her funeral is tomorrow).
Guess what? My GF has also been diagnosed with Leukaemia, though she is doing really well, thank someone.
Jup I feel for you, still feels like yesterday that my Dad died.I've not said alot on here about it, but this resonated. I'm now 56. In the past 6 month I've seen my GF's father go, my daughter in law's, my own Dad, and now my Mum (her funeral is tomorrow).
Guess what? My GF has also been diagnosed with Leukaemia, though she is doing really well, thank someone.
Jup I feel for you, still feels like yesterday that my Dad died.
I've not said alot on here about it, but this resonated. I'm now 56. In the past 6 month I've seen my GF's father go, my daughter in law's, my own Dad, and now my Mum (her funeral is tomorrow)
Love you, you mad swaffler!!! xxxvery sorry to hear dude. I was just over in the UK to support my niece with her mum passing. hope the day is beautiful mate
How's your keto working out?My car died so I had to get a new one rather unexpectedly. It all worked out though. The garage gave me a big box full of Italian chocolate as a gift. I do keto
I don't think I've become a low carb bastard, but I absolutely admit I enjoy being a bit skinnier.
thanks! and yeah, I cocked that up last time not gonna lie.Nice work that man.
Watch your back-on cycle. Keep your weight on the wall in front of you and go full nazi if it starts to go back up
Perversions!I missed the act
Perversions! Racisims!You can wake me up at night for Asian or Italian