Advice.

[~Mobius~]

I started talking to this girl at work a few weeks ago and we have gotten on really well. I went to a boys school and this is like my first interaction with another girl who isnt a relative. Usually I go red and make an idiot of myself immediatly but I find it really easy to talk and joke around with her. And I really like her, she is beautiful and so funny and nice to be around.

The thing is she is way out of my league, but were going out next week (sort of as friends) so I dont know if I should just continue to be her friend or maybe try and hint that I like her. I was telling her about how useless I am around girls and stuff but she didnt make fun of me she seemed genuinly interested.

So what do you think? We work at the same place and see eachother every week so I dont want to make things awkward but I've never felt like this before.

We are both 16, by the way.

 

[CptDoom]

Stay friends, bonking and work is usually a nono, if its a potential first bonk, definately leave it

 

[Summo]

Let her know you're interested in a romantic relationship AT THE FIRST DATE. Don't go as 'just friends' as that's how you'll always stay. Flirt with her and be sexual, don't just chat about rubbish.

You don't need another friend, however you do need someone to put your willy in.















Don't tell her that.

 

[~Mobius~]

This is my first time out with a girl ever (dont laugh) so I dont even know how to be sexual or flirtacious (is that even a word?)

Me flirting with her is the equivalent of Mr Bean flirting with Kate Moss...I am 99.9% certain to be laughed at and ridiculed.

I dont know what to talk about with her anyway .... I told her about my 72 hour online gaming marathon and how I only have 2 T-Shirts, she found it funny. Thank god.
Mostly we just talk about crap then the conversation goes onto more crap...but its fun anyway.

 

[evilmonkeh]

try alan partridge quotes - they do wonders for me!

 

[Summo]

Originally posted by ~Mobius~
I told her about my 72 hour online gaming marathon and how I only have 2 T-Shirts,

Oh, Christ. It's over.

Sounds like you need experience, and seeing as your single-sex school couldn't give it to you, see this 'date' as step one on a long and difficult learning journey.

Expect nothing to come of it, except a little knowledge for the next time you're with a girl.












God, I'm a bastard, but really, this is the first girl and you'll cock it up, so just learn. Single-sex schools are the most bizarre and unnatural institutions that breed bizarre and unnatural people. No offence.

 

[Ch3tan]

I was just good friends with a girl from work for the better part of 6 months. Been together for coming up to two years now. So they are all lying.

Unfortunetly we can give you as much advice as we want, the bottom line is that only you and she knows whats really going on, and what the outcome will be. So good luck.

BTW. DB's your a bitch. And you were meant to spell it biatch.

 

[Tom]

Don't try and impress her, just have a laugh. Not easy when you want to peel her top off, but try anyway

 

[WPKenny]

Originally posted by Summo
Single-sex schools are the most bizarre and unnatural institutions that breed bizarre and unnatural people. No offence.

So true. Bunch of freaks tbh. I spent 6 yrs of my life in single sex schools and they're just a complete fuck up.

Seperating the whole "private" aspect from the single sex aspect cos I truely think that you can get a better education from a private school. I do however think it's really not worth it for the screw ups these school produce.

I've since met or heard about some people I used to go to school with. The class bruiser is now a bank manager. One of the classes "most likely to work in a lab and invent a cure for cancer" was last seen working in the local Curry's as a sale's assistant.

God knows what their love lives are like but if they hold true to form they'll either end up marrying the first bird that comes along or they're gay.

I just thank God that I went to a mixed sex primary school and have two older sisters that helped to keep me "normal". Most of the boys there had no contact with girls from the age of 7 till they started their A-level's and even then it was only if they happened to choose the same subject as a girl at the neighbouring girls school.


O--er it's starting to sound like I have a few hang ups eh?

Anyway, back to the advice. As the hairdresser said (duckie), be prepared to fuck up royally, in fact expect it. So if you do any better than "fucking crap" it's a bonus.

Just chalk it down to experience.and

 

[Jupitus]

Sit over the table from her, or something, and look her straight in the eye. Then tell her it's daft, but you just can't help yourself, and that you really really like her.














See what she says.....















and then post it here

 

[throdgrain]

You lot freak me out

 

[kameleon]

Just be yourself, and if she can't handle it, then that's her loss.*

 

[-fus-]

Act like a homosexual (gay), but make it obvious that you're not as that would mean extra complications. Women like gay men, it's fact.

 

[old.ignus]

My advice is simple, take Summo's, Ch3tan's and WPkenny's advice. Ignore everyone else.

 

[old.ignus]

Also see here http://forums.barrysworld.com/showthread.php?threadid=78183&perpage=25&pagenumber=1 for some good advice from the regulars and know that you're not alone.

Then here http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/ for expert advice

 

[Sawtooth]

Originally posted by evilmonkeh
try alan partridge quotes - they do wonders for me!

But under no circumstances take her for dinner and show her your 12 inch plate.

 

[L_Plates]

Originally posted by Summo
You don't need another friend, however you do need someone to put your willy in.



Don't tell her that.

Good luck m8 !!

 

[Deebs]

Originally posted by ~Mobius~


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The thing is she is way out of my league, but were going out next week (sort of as friends) so I dont know if I should just continue to be her friend or maybe try and hint that I like her. I was telling her about how useless I am around girls and stuff but she didnt make fun of me she seemed genuinly interested.

Firstly, NO WOMAN is out of your league. That's a failure at the first hurdle as you will be lacking in confidence from the outset and women are masters at detecting all that stuff. She is YOUR equal.

Friends can develop into a relationship, flirt with her, say "sexy" things, go see a movie, but take it slow.

 

[Deebs]

Originally posted by Ch3tan
I was just good friends with a girl from work for the better part of 6 months. Been together for coming up to two years now. So they are all lying.

Unfortunetly we can give you as much advice as we want, the bottom line is that only you and she knows whats really going on, and what the outcome will be. So good luck.

BTW. DB's your a bitch. And you were meant to spell it biatch.

Couldn't be arsed and it was Saturday morning when I did it. Live with it, learn to like it

 

[Uncle Sick(tm)]

Originally posted by Jupitus
Sit over the table from her, or something, and look her straight in the eye. Then tell her it's daft, but you just can't help yourself, and that you really really like her.














See what she says.....















and then post it here

Makes me wonder just how Jup managed to get married.

Mobius... just-be-yourself. If you try to impress a girl, you usually make stuff up. At one point the truth as usually will come out - and you're fucked. Girls don't like fibbing/lying etc.
I was best friends with my missus first - don't rush things.
Give a possible romantic relationship time to develop.

Gee.. makes me wonder how I managed to find a wife...

 

[leggy]

Be yourself is crap advice in my opinion. What if yourself is a person who owns only 2 tshirts and plays computer games 24 hours a day?

I somehow find it hard to imagine a girl being attracted to this.

My advice is to pretend that you are a jet pilot named Mav and arrive on a motorbike.

 

[L_Plates]

but dont slam on the brakes cause she will fly right by !!!




















Damn im so funneh !!


/me hides

 

[Durzel]

To be honest, given your history (single-sex school, etc) you may actually be better off having this girl as a friend - especially if she doesn't laugh at your apparent shyness, tendency to labour on about subjects that seem to put 95% of women off (i.e. gaming).

What doesn't hurt you makes you stronger and all that.

You might find after a while that simply through your laidback association/chats, etc with her that you become more able to handle male/female social situations better.

I know this is odd advice given what others have said but I think you need to think of the bigger picture - if you haven't/don't have any female friends, this one - especially if she hasn't laughed at any shyness/weird computer-related stories already - could be better for you as a friend in the long run than as your first sexual/social experience.

 

[Wij]

Originally posted by ~Mobius~
I told her about my 72 hour online gaming marathon and how I only have 2 T-Shirts, she found it funny.

:doh:

She finds YOU funny now. Not witty, or clever, but funny. To laugh at.

Sorry m8, I know there's nothing wrong with being as you are but women don't fancy blokes like that. Just don't mention it to girls in future. And expand your wardrobe. Half an hour in Next would be enough. You don't have to be in expensive designer kit. Although it may help. Treat your self with half an hour in HMV after Next. It works for me.

 

[dysfunction]

Re: Re: Advice.

Originally posted by DBs
Firstly, NO WOMAN is out of your league. That's a failure at the first hurdle as you will be lacking in confidence from the outset and women are masters at detecting all that stuff. She is YOUR equal.

Friends can develop into a relationship, flirt with her, say "sexy" things, go see a movie, but take it slow.

This is what I was going to say.

Its good advice and you would be wise following it.

For all you know you may be the first guy she has really gone out with or even connected with. You obviously dont make her uncomfortable and she doesnt see you in a bad light else she wouldnt be chatting to you.

Follow your instincts and gut feelings.


Also read this thread in great detail...

http://forums.barrysworld.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=78183

 

[Durzel]

Originally posted by Wij
:doh:

She finds YOU funny now. Not witty, or clever, but funny. To laugh at.

Sorry m8, I know there's nothing wrong with being as you are but women don't fancy blokes like that. Just don't mention it to girls in future. And expand your wardrobe. Half an hour in Next would be enough. You don't have to be in expensive designer kit. Although it may help. Treat your self with half an hour in HMV after Next. It works for me.

Sound advice there.

As a rule of thumb don't say anything that you would find awkward to hear from anyone else. The problem with what you've already said (the "72 hour marathon/2 t-shirts" quote) is that it's gonna be difficult to come back from that... at least in a relationship sense. I'd say the chances of any person identifying with playing a game for 72 hours straight and only having 2 t-shirts is slim to none, and this % is reduced even more for women. I'd say in fact there was a -12% chance she "bonded" with you on that quote.

But anyway.. since you're in a work environment you could use that to your advantage. The typical "I'm tired today, long weekend" quote works well into a "what did you do at the weekend?" "Ah shopping?" "Buy anything nice?"... etc.. etc.. blah blah blah.

As stupid as it sounds (and I'm no expert) but you need to keep in tune with current affairs (whats hot in music, cinema, celebs, reality TV, etc) even if you don't activately watch/listen to it yourself. All that stuff is conversation starters.. there's only so far you can go with "amusing IRC anacdotes".

If all else fails, lick your finger and rub your eyebrow and/or make a gun gesture at her.. *pow* "Smokin' baby!". Never fails*


* Except in 99.999% of cases

 

[doh_boy]

Originally posted by Durzel
To be honest, given your history (single-sex school, etc) you may actually be better off having this girl as a friend - especially if she doesn't laugh at your apparent shyness, tendency to labour on about subjects that seem to put 95% of women off (i.e. gaming).

What doesn't hurt you makes you stronger and all that.

You might find after a while that simply through your laidback association/chats, etc with her that you become more able to handle male/female social situations better.

I know this is odd advice given what others have said but I think you need to think of the bigger picture - if you haven't/don't have any female friends, this one - especially if she hasn't laughed at any shyness/weird computer-related stories already - could be better for you as a friend in the long run than as your first sexual/social experience.

AND she'll have friends and I've found if a female friend introduces you, there's not much ice-breaking needed. :great:

 

[maxi--]

bang that bitch brah'

 

[Durzel]

Re: Re: Re: Advice.

Originally posted by dysfunction
For all you know you may be the first guy she has really gone out with or even connected with. You obviously dont make her uncomfortable and she doesnt see you in a bad light else she wouldnt be chatting to you.

Problem here is we're talking about a work situation.

She has nowhere to go, it's not like she can up and leave the office ala a nightclub. Nor can she really upset the general atmosphere of the office. So, it is perfectly feasible that her laughter is "nervous laughter" or "hehe that's great now go away freakazoid"... No offence.

All I'm saying is that work-type situations are nowhere near the same as nightclub/pub situations.

 

[dysfunction]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Advice.

Originally posted by Durzel
Problem here is we're talking about a work situation.

She has nowhere to go, it's not like she can up and leave the office ala a nightclub. Nor can she really upset the general atmosphere of the office. So, it is perfectly feasible that her laughter is "nervous laughter" or "hehe that's great now go away freakazoid"... No offence.

All I'm saying is that work-type situations are nowhere near the same as nightclub/pub situations.

He said they are going to be going out next week as sort of friends. So she is quite happy to hang out with him after work.

So my guess is she doesnt think he's a freakazoid....or she likes freakazoids