Your opinions please...

[Laddey]

My brother's in jail for something he never done.

Whilest he's currently in jail, his girlfriend for 8+ years, house and 2 kids with is taking the willy off an ex partner.

I don't have any concrete evidence of this, only word of mouth. Although the word is reliable as it's coming from her sister.

What do i do? I'm not going to tell my bro whilest he's in there, it'll ruin him for the fact he's on remand for something he hasn't done, plus his girlfriend is taking the length. It'd just destroy him. I can't see this happen.

The other step is, confront this lad which is more than likely going to turn nasty.

Another way is, keep completly out of it. Just fuck them all off and not have nothing to do with it.

I don't want to tell my brother when he's out either, because he'd hit the roof.

What do i do? Stuck in a rutt.

 

[Tuthmes]

Depends on how long he's in jail!

 

[Laddey]

Depends on how long he's in jail!

Running the trial 24th of March, statement from the lad who done it has been received going to get presented in court 24th. Which will aquit Jamie of the charges.

Say 3 weeks

 

[Thorwyn]

First off, you need to be 100% sure before taking ANY action. Don´t base your actions on hearsay, regardless how reliable the souce might be.
If it´s really true, then it sounds like a tough decision. If I was in your situation, I would tell my brother about it. After all, it´s the truth and the sooner he gets it, the better for him. Just imagine him sitting in there, looking forward to his discharge and a happy life, just to see it crushed when he´s out. Wouldn´t that destroy him just as well?
Another option is to talk to her first. If she knows that you know ahout it, she might either stop or take the first step and break up the existing relationship with your brother. Not a pleasant situation either, but hey... sometimes, reality hurts.
Anyways, good luck whatever you do.

 

[Laddey]

First off, you need to be 100% sure before taking ANY action. Don´t base your actions on hearsay, regardless how reliable the souce might be.
If it´s really true, then it sounds like a tough decision. If I was in your situation, I would tell my brother about it. After all, it´s the truth and the sooner he gets it, the better for him. Just imagine him sitting in there, looking forward to his discharge and a happy life, just to see it crushed when he´s out. Wouldn´t that destroy him just as well?
Another option is to talk to her first. If she knows that you know ahout it, she might either stop or take the first step and break up the existing relationship with your brother. Not a pleasant situation either, but hey... sometimes, reality hurts.
Anyways, good luck whatever you do.

Good points.


Things where never cushy before he went to jail in the mad house. So he's not going to be looking forward to everything been happy when he gets out.

We've told him to fuck her off, but it's all fucked up!

See now if i tell him when he gets out, he's gonna go ape shit...Won't help him in anyway shape or form, i know this we all know this but you can't tell it to a meat head.

 

[Jupitus]

Book yourself onto the Jeremy Kyle show ASAP!

 

[Laddey]

Book yourself onto the Jeremy Kyle show ASAP!

Yeah but no

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

Fake a letter from the local hospital's genito urinary medicine department to this guy that shows positive result for whatever STD floats your boat and leave it around for the wifey to find.

When bruv gets out of jail, put itching powder in all his pants.

Put webcams all around the house.

Share with your friends on FH.

 

[Laddey]

Fake a letter from the local hospital's genito urinary medicine department to this guy that shows positive result for whatever STD floats your boat and leave it around for the wifey to find.

When bruv gets out of jail, put itching powder in all his pants.

Put webcams all around the house.

Share with your friends on FH.

So much work for nothing

I'm sure we can come up with something better than that!!

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

Ok, well the way I look at it is that you're gonna do what you're gonna do anyway and posting on here isn't going to really change that. But its a great way to vent some frustration so get it out there man

If you really want advice: do nothing. Its not your call. If their relationship is on the rocks it will die of its own accord.

 

[TdC]

what he said tbh ^^


*I* think you should fill their house with webcams, and set up a paysite.

 

[Laddey]

Ok, well the way I look at it is that you're gonna do what you're gonna do anyway and posting on here isn't going to really change that. But its a great way to vent some frustration so get it out there man

If you really want advice: do nothing. Its not your call. If their relationship is on the rocks it will die of its own accord.

Yeah, i understand your point 100%. Just like to see some peoples opinions on this forum because looking at each P.O.V sometimes makes you change your mind, some bright lads on here aswell which never fail to suprise me.
It's like looking at things from a different perspective. FH for PM.

what he said tbh ^^


*I* think you should fill their house with webcams, and set up a paysite.

My HTML is abit rusty

 

[Ch3tan]

Confront HER about it?

 

[Laddey]

Confront HER about it?

Done. Denied it to the bone.

 

[Ch3tan]

Leave well off until you have proof then Laddey, her sister could have another agenda here. You don't want to be responsible for putting doubt in your brothers mind or risking his relationship without knowing for sure.

 

[soze]

If it was my brother i could not see him go back to her when he got out without telling him what i heard. Tell him calm him down and let him sort it out.

Either way you take a risk. If he gets deeper with this girl then finds out you knew she had been cheating but did nothing that could hurt your relationship. Crap call either way but for me I would tell him that there is a story doing the rounds that she did xyz and go from there.

 

[Olgaline]

Welcome every problem as an opportunity. Each moment is the great challenge, the best thing that ever happened to you, The more difficult the problem, the greater the challenge in working it out.

Now go get em tiger!


btw, unless the chap is doing it well knowingly that
she's spoken for, then leave him out of it.


and I'd tell your bro, but dont make it a fact, but rather, inform him of the rumor that you've heard, and thus cannot ignore.
chances are he knows her well better than you, and can make better sence of the rumor.

 

[Ezteq]

um well I'd not tell your borther right now because he's in the clink and there's nothing he can do about it in there aand he might do something silly like kick off or something.

Just because it was her sister that told you she was up to no good does not make it believable; relations are just as happy to fuck one another over as other people so don't think 'oh well if her sister said it it must be true!'

IF she is cheating then it's her big bad doing and you want to inform your brother so he can take whatever action he sees fit but you ned to have proper evidence of this. What I would do is just have a chat (and I really mean chat, not a slanging match/fight) with the accused bloke (and lets be honest here he might be mortified that this rumour is going around about him) say what you have heard and say what it would mean to your brother, explain you are only concerned for his welfare and you don't care about anything else (because tbh that area is none of your bidness!)

Be like Joe Friday and just try and get the facts, you don't have to be all jeremy kyle about it and if it is just a storm in a tea cup then I think your brother, his GF and the bloke would all be glad to get it squashed, if its not then just get it in the open and let them deal with it.

s'what i'd do.

 

[Access Denied]

Am I the only one who's wondering why your brother is still in jail if there's a signed statement from the guy who really did it? That would normally mean your brother would be released immediately with a hearty apology.

As to the claim that she's cheating. Like everyone else has said you need proof so your best bet would be to turn private eye and see what you can see. Either that or ask the kids. They'll prbobably tell you if something is going on.

 

[Marc]

End of the day, hes your brother. He will find out eventually and he will also find out that you knew and never told him.

If it was me, id tell my brother and i would also go round to this lads house and stomp his guts out. You are your brothers keeper after all.

 

[Cerb]

Alright like someone already said, no matter what we say you are going to do your own thing. However here's my two cents for what it's worth.

If I was you I would first go to her and tell her the rumour that you've heard. If she denies it again you say "fine, but either way I'm telling my brother about this rumour". See if that gets a different reaction out of her. If at this point she still wont own up, I would go to your brother and tell him, as soon as possibe really because you want to finish by saying something like "ok, so its shit bro, but take a look around at this place, you dont want to risk doing anything that could land you back in here". If he's got 3 weeks to think about it he's got 3 weeks to calm down and think about how he wont want to be back in there.

oh and....so he didnt chuck the bloke off the balcony then?

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

Am I the only one who's wondering why your brother is still in jail if there's a signed statement from the guy who really did it?

It did cross my mind.

 

[Lamp]

IMO keep your mouth shut and stay out of it
Whatever you do will end up causing trouble
Sometimes you just have to let people deal with their own shit, brother or not

 

[Olgaline]

ya, dont ruine it for Lamp man!
he's finally getting some

 

[Ezteq]

tbh I can see (and fully understand) the opinion of keeping out if it, while he is your brother and you obviously feel the need to protect him there are about 8 million ways this could all blow up and every one would blame you.

There is much truth to the saying about the messenger of bad tidings getting shot for just trying to help.

If you really must do something though just be very careful, and fgs don't stomp anyone's guts out (as tempting as it may be, remember the guy could be an innocent bystander) or you'll end up in prison too!

 

[Laddey]

Am I the only one who's wondering why your brother is still in jail if there's a signed statement from the guy who really did it? That would normally mean your brother would be released immediately with a hearty apology.

As to the claim that she's cheating. Like everyone else has said you need proof so your best bet would be to turn private eye and see what you can see. Either that or ask the kids. They'll prbobably tell you if something is going on.

My cousins solicitors (Cousin been the lad who threw the glass, wrote the statement) is in the army.
His breifs and council are holding back with the statement (preventing sending it in) until they have had a meeting with my cousin, discussing the concequences of this statement and what it will do to his career (which is already fucked)

We're going into the solicitors today to get this statement and give it to my brothers solicitor. There's been a big follow up in the local papers about this. Everybody knows it wasn't Jamie, the police understand it wasn't Jamie, but nothing can be adjusted until court date on the 24th March.


Thanks for your input everybody, made me see it from a different POV!

I'm going to wait til he gets out, then i'm going to advise him of the RUMOUR what has been going around. My brother knows alot of people in PTown so it either comes from me or some randomer on the street, and i'd sooner it come from me.