Advice Would you say something?

[old.user4556]

A friend of mine on Facebook has recently given birth to a lovely baby boy. He's a few weeks old. She's uploaded many photos of him into an album.

She uploaded some new ones tonight, and I noticed something disturbing. The baby's eyes don't reflect red, they reflect bright white. I've read about this online before where a concerned mother detected some eye disease early because of the white reflection instead of red. The other eyes in the photo of her and the dad are obvious red. I've never seen this before on any baby pictures scattered all over facebook, nor have I seen it on my photos of my sister's kids - I've only seen it on her photos.

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Now, I'm not a doctor and I really hate sticking my nose in people's business and avoid it. I could mention it and worry her sick and it ends up being nothing and I could really upset her no matter how good my intention is. What gives me the right to get involved when I know fuck all about it other than a news article and wiki.

What do you think?

 

[old.Osy]

I would, especially being a friend. Shows you care, if anything.

If it's nothing and she goes mad, she wasn't a friend anyway.

 

[Zenith.UK]

Make a joke about it.
"Hey! You and him have devil eyes, but the little 'un is the bright eyed one!"

Maybe it will make them think about seeing a specialist themselves.

 

[ileks]

If it's showing up in different pictures you should tbh. Imagine if you didn't and you were right all along.

 

[ileks]

Make a joke about it.
"Hey! You and him have devil eyes, but the little 'un is the bright eyed one!"

Maybe it will make them think about seeing a specialist themselves.

I had never heard of this before tbh- they might have no idea it's significant.

 

[Raven]

Tell them. If they get pissy then fuck them off.

 

[soze]

Forward the dad the article and say it might be worth showing his doc the picture.

 

[Zarjazz]

The consequences of you being right but not saying anything are so much worse than all the alternatives that it should be a complete no-brainer.

 

[Roo Stercogburn]

A friend of mine on Facebook has recently given birth to a lovely baby boy. He's a few weeks old. She's uploaded many photos of him into an album.

She uploaded some new ones tonight, and I noticed something disturbing. The baby's eyes don't reflect red, they reflect bright white. I've read about this online before where a concerned mother detected some eye disease early because of the white reflection instead of red. The other eyes in the photo of her and the dad are obvious red. I've never seen this before on any baby pictures scattered all over facebook, nor have I seen it on my photos of my sister's kids - I've only seen it on her photos.

Leukocoria - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Now, I'm not a doctor and I really hate sticking my nose in people's business and avoid it. I could mention it and worry her sick and it ends up being nothing and I could really upset her no matter how good my intention is. What gives me the right to get involved when I know fuck all about it other than a news article and wiki.

What do you think?

Sounds like too much drama.

Empathy. It works both ways.

 

[old.user4556]

I don't understand your point?

 

[Wazzerphuk]

As long as you word it right it'd be pretty hard to take offence. Tell them.

Thought you hated people's endless spamming of baby pics anyway?

 

[old.Tohtori]

Weigh the options;

You say something, it's nothing, they get pissed off at you and perhaps realise later you were just a concerned friend(or act like dicks and unless you sexually that way oriented, not for you).

You say something, it's valid and hail their new hero.

You don't say anything, it's a bad thing, kid gets f*cked.

You don't say anything, nothing bad happens, business as usual.

From the options above, you might notice that the worst case scenario in saying something is that some people think less of you. Big deal eh? Friends understand if they are friends. From the other options, a kid gets f*cked up is the worst case.

So, when it comes down to it, you're choices are; Risk f*cking a kid up, or risk someone having a hissy fit at you. I'd go with the hissy fit.

 

[ECA]

I think you need to tell them.

From some googling - the eye can reflect white if at an uncommon angle, so it could be nothing.

Consistently white in every photo when everyone elses are red though? Worst case scenario you end up looking like a caring friend.

 

[caLLous]

Yep, spill. Pretty much what Zarjazz said, she should be able to see your good intentions even if it is a false alarm.

 

[Nate]

Is it something that happens when they are really young? Like how babies eyes are blue when they first open?

Dunno

Oh googled it, apparently it happens in babies eyes http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joan-...-egan/baby-photos-can-reflect-s_b_691692.html

 

[old.user4556]

Thought you hated people's endless spamming of baby pics anyway?

It's tiresome .

I spoke to my sister briefly on the phone (she's a midwife) and said that it's better safe than sorry. I sent her the pic whilst on the phone and she was like "oh aye, i'd get that ruled out, will take a GP ten seconds". She then went on to tell me that she knows of someone who's kid had the same thing and someone mentioned "oh by the way, I noticed in your kid's picture their eye reflection was white, that can be a prob, get it checked". Turns out it was retinoblastoma and they caught it early.

I just sent her a facebook message congratulating her on her new arrival and how beautiful her baby boy was (I can feel Wazz rolling his eyes at this) and I hoped she was doing well as a new mum. I then went on to explain I noticed in his pictures that one eye reflected red, one white and that I know that can be an early indicator of eye problems; the best thing to do would be to get it looked at and rule anything out - better safe than sorry. PS my sister is a mid-wife and she said I should mention it. LOTS OF LOVEKTHXBYE.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Nice transfer of responsibility to your sister :worthy:

 

[old.user4556]

I shall not deny that I used that as leverage; she is a mid-wife and has two young kids, so she was able to put herself in a professional and motherly position and say "i'd rather someone said".

 

[russell]

Well handled i think -i would have done the same thing -except dont have a mid wife sister. Hell I dont even have a sister.

 

[old.user4556]

I'll be your sister.

*mangina*

 

[Wazzerphuk]

I just sent her a facebook message congratulating her on her new arrival and how beautiful her baby boy was (I can feel Wazz rolling his eyes at this)

I know this girl who has recently had a kid. She posted her pics and loads of fawning women commented how beautiful the baby was.

The fucking thing has ginger hair and jowly chops to rival Harry Redknapp/the Churchill dog. It's a horrific thing to look at.