Why are the youth of today so f**** up

Chronictank

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Leading on from the other thread,

Why do you think the bad kids end up being SO bad ?

Now a part of me wants to believe it is just american gang culture coming over into the UK, and to an extent it probably is but i dont think that is the major driver behind the issues we face today.
Why are kids getting more and more extreme in their actions?

I had a think about it, and i reckon its years of neglect of the use system.

I think its the lack of competative sports/activities, before you laugh bear with me;
10,20 years ago every school essentially had enforced competative sports in the form of PE, but this time has been increasingly been reduced. When i started school we had 4 hrs of PE a week, this was reduced to 2 hrs and when i left it was 1 hr a week. Now 1 hr isnt even enough to have a football game, let alone do something productive.
So we come to extra-ciricular activies, again when i stated school things from hockey to athletics happened, every day of the week there was some sort of activity going on. When i left this was reduced to 3, then 2, and then 1 sport a "season" (football winter, cricket summer) which meant kids had bugger all to do 3-4 days of the week (excluding weekends)

But why should the school with limited funds organise everything, surely there should be afterschool and weekend clubs? well there were, then Thatcher got into power and then there were fewer, New Labour appeared and they dissapeared altogether.
When i was 11-12 there used to be a youth club we would go to (inventively named "The Play Centre"), where they had games, pool tables and such, as well as activities every weekend. You could idle there or get involed it was up to you, this ran from 10am to 4 pm, so again kids arent on the streets and are doing something productive.
But these places do not exist anymore, it isn't fair to blame this on the government though, it's also down to over-zelous parents suing at every opertunity because little jimmy scraped his knee ruining any enjoyment taken out of it by wrapping it in red tape.. twice.
I was speaking to a friend who was a volunteer at a youth centre, they have to do training and every kid needs to have a signed permission slip if they want to do any activity off site (this includes the park across the road), in the end she got tierd of all the hassel and just stopped volunteering.

So where does all this pent up aggression go? you could argue that they could organise their own events
However quite frankly kids have nothing to do which is free/cheap, i mean if you want to go play 5-a-side, you need to book a pitch/gym/etc.. which lets be honest costs an arm and a leg when you are that age
I mean ipay £6 a week for astro turf bookings, £3+Membership for sports center membership when i want to pay badminton or tennis.
These facilities should be free/run at a nominal cost not so expensive kids cant afford it.

Kids cant congregate in shopping malls, parks are so neglected they arent even safe beyond 5/6. Almost every light bar main pathways are broken in my local parks, and there is never a policeman/woman in sight to provide a sense of safety there.

End result? Well boredom, with nothing to do drink, sex and drugs at an age when they are not capable of dealing with them looks an awful lot more attractive.
Lack of competative sports to get rid of that excess aggression means it stays bottled up, which inevitably is going to end badly.

Now no doubt someone is going to turn up and say, WRONG I DIDNT TURN OUT LIKE THAT MEIGHT, well maybe not
But i would bet you are middle class/went to a good school/parents who put time into your social activities/a recluse :p

While it is a generalisation, yes there will be exceptions but i think thats the problem.
There is nowhere for kids to legitimately congregate so kids stay in crowds
there is no more easily accesible organised activity, leading to idleness and ultimately frustration

Now while there are definitely other factors into this such as poor parenting, culture etc..
This didnt happen overnight, so isnt going to be solved overnight, and the only reason this has come into public perception is that its got to a critical point where its making itself known
 

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I think the main problem is that parents doesn't give a fuck anymore. I think the problems comes from kids wanting to get some attention, if not from their parents then from someone else.
 

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Parents expect the state to educate and discipline their children.
How many clueless fuckwits do you see on TV talking about their children saying "oh I just cant control xxx".
 

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Lazy parent are the biggest factor i reckon. Kids need to be controlled from a young age. Told what is right and what is wrong, and the should fear (to some extent) the consequences if they are rude/violent or whatever. A father/grandfather figure around the house has also got to help. Not one who lounges around on benefits watching t.v. but someone hard working and polite. it is probably a vicious cycle as well. more chav/lazy parents = more extreme chav kids who then go on to have mega chav kids of their own.

I think they should do a study of how discipline in schools has affected youth violence over the years. Maybe teachers caning students = less chavs? :)
 

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the kids arent worse now then they were 10 - 20 years ago. it only seems that way because more weapons (read guns) are available for them. 10 - 20 years ago they couldn't get those (atleast not as easy as now), so they used knifes insted to kill others with, and usually hung out in run down blocks where noone gave a damn about them and thus never heard anything about it.

were only aware of this "new" problem now because the media figured out that it sells them newspapers.

sure, sports might pull SOME away from this shit but the school can't raise the kids for their parents. and unfortunatly theres no real law against being a shit parent, or a "drivers license" for having kids.

it probably should be tho.
 

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There's plenty of reasons:

Nanny laws.
Nanny parents.
Nanny laws to make parents nanny'ish.(don't beat them!)
Overprotection.
Media bombardment(news the most so f*ck off with anti-gaming) with violence etc.


And so on.

Can't really point a finger and go "that is bad!" 'cause then you'd be no better then the ones blaming games for violence when it's just another excuse.
 

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To put it simply they need a good beating when they do something wrong. Now that we have destroyed our society I think its about time the whining left were gagged and some serious laws laid down to these little turds.
 

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Parents expect the state to educate and discipline their children.
How many clueless fuckwits do you see on TV talking about their children saying "oh I just cant control xxx".

So right, parents are the main problem. They don't actually want to be responsible for the scum they produced. Parents should be made more responible for underage children who break the law.

My mother lives in a Village in Hampshire about 5 miles from Basingstoke. They had a meeting with local Police regarding vandalism in the village. The meeting was basically hijacked by some parents complaining that they need help controlling their children. Huge arguments erupted and about 90% of the village walked out in disgust.

Some people argue National Service should be enfored again, I'm not sure teaching a bunch psychopathic self obsessed dick heads to kill would be such a great idea.

Not sure the lack of competitive sports in schools is totally responsible but it does make me laugh when my son comes home with 'Certificates of Participation' on a sports day. I do agree that we seem to be teaching kids not to stand out and strive for excellence in sport. Instead you should just have fun. That's not what modern life is about. To suceed you have to be driven or be lucky. Political Correctness has a lot to answer for.
 

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For once I agree with marc & old, but thats not biggie really.

Id go further - public death in a not very pretty way, for lesser crimes chemical castration. The little shits near FEAR instilled in them.
 

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lack of Discipline = don't hit your child, dont shout at them, cba to control them

lack of respect = see your parents out acting like dicks, getting drunk, puking over the couch, fighting etc why the hell would you respect them?

lack of fear = when i was a kid we saw a policeman we'd all be stood to attention, teachers were called sir/miss for fear of being "black board rubbered"

lack of goals = why bother studying when you can just go get your tits out in public/shag a footballer/go on a reality tv show and become a insta celeb

plus its all too easy for them, they see their parents or friends w/e getting benifits for everything and they think pfft i dont need to work! they all want the celeb life style but dont want to do the work necessary to obtain it. you cant teach them because they dont want to learn, you cant make them work because they know they dont have to.

think about the generational thing here, my parents were hippies, when i was born at the end of the 1970s the parents of my generation had all been out practicing free love, doing drugs and protesting against viet nam.

Their parents had been the war time generation, they knew they had to work to achieve things, they had to save to get what they wanted and that everything could be taken away from them in an instant...so they were probably a bit over strict with their kids so their kids rebelled by becoming hippies and rocking out in the 60s/70s the birth control pill was available so they could be more liberal with themselves than their parents.

Now came the next generation, they saw their parents drunk and stoned...and by their parents generation there wasn't really any stigma in being on benifits, some of the mums of my generation were still of the "house wife" mind set, the "i dont need to work if i open my legs and get a husband" era so this didnt really encourage the girls to do much with their lives, when your little you just think "when i grow up ill have a husband and baby and a house" you dont realise that you might not get those...or that you might not even want them.

any hoo the next generation are the kids that come from my generation and older, so youve got the kids from the parents who spent the 80s and 90s off their tits and thie produced the chavs (yay) and the ferel teens that we see today, we all complained when we were at school because it was too hard, the teachers were too strict, so the government (who were of the hippy generation) said yeah its too hard, no contact sports, everyone gets a prize no matter if they win or lose! no one has to try!!

its the generation after this one that scares me, the post chav generation, i mean my parents were fucking appauling but at least i got some morals from them (if just from seeing what they did and thinking "man im not going to do that when i grow up!") but what of the babies with 15 year old mothers and 32 year old grand mothers... there is no generational learning being passed down, nothing.

i tell you what i hope to christ there is a mass cholera out break at some point and the last few layers of this generation are wiped out.

Essay over.
 

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Going to be hated by alot of women here now but an influenitial sociological writer in the USA has written his theory on why we have some many anti-social behaviour problems these days. His main argument sights the increase in womens rights with the increase in children becoming more violent etc..

Basicly what he is saying is: Women go to work, have no time for the children they want to have. Children become ASBO louts.
 

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People blame the state for the problems, and if thats the way they want to play it, then the state should be the ones to sort it. When we had national service, we had the same social problems as now, but to a far lesser degree.

Bring back the work-houses, and make them compulsary for dole que veterans and knocked up sluts still in school. We have hundreds of jobs in England that require no skills, and yet we bring in immigrants to do it rather than force the lazy twats who sit on there arse's, sponging on our tax's. Screw that!

I'd also untie the hands of the police, and legislate amraments for them, also spend some more money on training up more Armed Response Units. Finally, bring back the death penalty. Those two little bastards that killed the girl last year just because she was a 'goth'... i'd have given both of them 'public and televised executions'. Let the little swine plead for their pathetic lives to the nation, then hang the bastards!

Instill some fear back into the system, and beat some sense back into our youths... harsh disipline maybe, but then we've become too pampered and too lax.
 

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I'm 20, so i guess i fall into the 'kids of today' category.

I'm alright, never been really been in trouble. Most of the people I know are in the same boat. It's definitely a small minority of arseholes, but there isn't any hiding from the fact it's a problem.

I live in a town where kids arn't really a problem, there is a bit of chav of scum around, but it's a haven compared to most cities. However it's the adults who don't seem to be able to control themselves. It's people 20 - 30 you see fighting in the streets on a friday night, not kids.

Obviously it is different in other places, especially in the more ghettoised parts of London, where gang culture is rife. One thing i notice from the news is that it tends to be black kids shooting other black kids, and it needs to be looked into why that is.

I remember growing up, my mum only had to say 'You wait till your bloody father gets home!' and that put me on my best behaviour for the rest of the day.

Don't really know what the point of that post was.
 

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the kids arent worse now then they were 10 - 20 years ago. it only seems that way because more weapons (read guns) are available for them.

I have to disagree. Kids ARE worse.

When i was just a little kiddie in school say age 5-13. I would never have gotten away with the shit the kids do today. (same way you could say that the kids 30 years ago was most likely a good deal more polite than i was) If i was a smartass to my seniors, i'd get swift punishment in the form of *insert painful act here* and if i bitched to the grown ups, all they would say was "Don't play with the big boys then" and you would quickly learn that they all knew you brought it on yourself.
Many parents are overprotective and completely unable to discipline their kids. Too many fucking books and TV shows that tell them to "Have a civil conversation with your child about it's needs, and why it's acting up" Bullshit! you grab your kid and tell them to stop being a twatwaffle or they are going home, no dinner, no tv, no computer, no videogames. And then you follow through. Don't fucking fold instantly when they continue, once they have called your bluff, they see it as a freeride.
The younger the generation, the less respect they have for other people in general, in my experience.
 

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Lazy parent are the biggest factor i reckon. Kids need to be controlled from a young age. Told what is right and what is wrong, and the should fear (to some extent) the consequences if they are rude/violent or whatever. A father/grandfather figure around the house has also got to help. Not one who lounges around on benefits watching t.v. but someone hard working and polite. it is probably a vicious cycle as well. more chav/lazy parents = more extreme chav kids who then go on to have mega chav kids of their own.

I think they should do a study of how discipline in schools has affected youth violence over the years. Maybe teachers caning students = less chavs? :)

I agree. You 'parent' how you were 'parented', as that is what you know, so the problem just esculates.

It is getting quite out of control.

Teachers have no power. It is their job to inspire learning -not to parent a child. Children should already know what is right and wrong by the time they start school. WTF is going on with our society?:confused:
 

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lack of goals = why bother studying when you can just go get your tits out in public/shag a footballer/go on a reality tv show and become a insta celeb
I have to try this.
 

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Teachers are powerless. Bring back corporal punishment.
Under English law, a child under 10 cannot be guilty of a criminal offence
The police cannot clip kids round the ear anymore
There's a decline in respect from kids and towards kids
Irresponsible parenting
Drugs, alcohol
Gun, gang, & hip-hop culture
Lack of things for the kids to do so they gather on street corners and bus stops
The internet
Video games, TV, cinema
Peer pressure - on estates there's a "comply or die" culture among the residents
A broken benefits system
Decline in public services & responsible service provision from local councils
Lack of government funding into youth & community projects
Lack of opportunities for young people
Celebration of loutishness, yob culture, & apathy in the TV & media
Decline in manners, respect, education, self-betterment, responsibility, etc - list is endless
 

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I'm getting worried what options will be open to me for discipline when I have kids. You cant smack them... thats my last resort out of the window. (How many people go clipped by their dad, and havent turned into violent, depressed adults?)

How long will it be before grounding then will be deemed "a restriction of their rights"? What are you left with really? So yeah, the nanny state has stuff to answer for too. But heck, how many parents will be buying GTA4 for their 10yr olds?
 

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Nothing wrong with smacking kids (within limits, obviously). Screw the nanny state. Never had this shit before New Labour. Oh wait, you lot all voted them in so they must be right.
 

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Nothing wrong with smacking kids (within limits, obviously). Screw the nanny state. Never had this shit before New Labour. Oh wait, you lot all voted them in so they must be right.

rofl lamp can we rechristen you Alf Garnet now pleeeeeease that was such an alfism!

i personally hate the way the government is called upon to interfere with every tiny sodding detail of today, we dont eat properly... start a government initiative! kids arn't getting the right amount of exercise...start a government initiative!

fgs let the government get on with running the country, the big stuff like the economy and defence and everyone else piss off and look after your own affairs, people have no accountability for their actions now so if their kids are fat and stupid, its the governments fault! if the people get in to debt because they had to have every sodding credit card going and maxed them all out, its the governments fault!

Laissez Faire thats what i say!

the country started going massively wrong when the government began getting involved in the nitty gritty.
 

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Nothing wrong with smacking kids (within limits, obviously). Screw the nanny state. Never had this shit before New Labour. Oh wait, you lot all voted them in so they must be right.

I didn't :)


*smug mode
 

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So....many....long....speeeches. Cant...be....arsed...to.....read. But i agree with most that is being said. I notice a real big difference in Sweden now and like 10 years ago. Those f*ckers lack disciplin and respect. Im all for beating annoying twats in public!
 

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I think that 'beating' kids may well backfire too.
 

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