K i got a problem

[Mey]

I went out tonight to the clubs and pubs and a good night was had, but there was this girl i've liked since year 10, and i've not seen her since like year 11 [two years ago - well i've seen her out and about but she goes and different college now and doesn't use msn anymore] (im in my last year of college now - year 13) but i dunno whether to ask her out or not, we danced for a bit in the bar and had a good laugh, but she was saying she still likes my mate (she went out with him in year 10 till about year 11) basicly, i have no idea what to do.

I'm quite shy when it comes to telling people how i really feel, and i'm quite reserved [ keep stuff to myself ] (unless i have had shit loads to drink - like now). I lent her my jacket for the way home and need to get it back in the up and coming days *aka tomorrow or the day after* but i'm worried about the aqwark silence that might happen when i go to her house to pick it up.

So bascily i'm asking what to do..

We held hands on the way home and people compimented me on how good looking she was when we walked past a pub on the way home.. (i.e "your girlfrined has big *montion to tits*") i really like her and i'm in a bit of a mess atm!

SO freddyshouse imo help me!

 

[Ctuchik]

ask her, nothing else u can do really. sure u could go the dodgy way of asking common friends about her status with boyfriends and stuff, but then u have a big risk shes finding it out from a 3:rd party, and probably missunderstands your intentions.


either u ask her straight out that u like her and that u wanna see her again and work from there or u dont say anything and make SMALL moves on her and see how she reacts. ive had better luck being honest and just asking then being sneaky about it

 

[Yeke]

Just tell her straight out - worst thing she can do is turn you down what will you lose from that? absolutly nothing just be sure not to make a tit out of yourself and lose a freindship make it clear you would still like to be friends etc
What might you gain from it? you do the math


life is too short... no regrets etc

 

[old.Tohtori]

"(she went out with him in year 10 till about year 11)"

Puppy love don't count.

Anyway, if you can't get your mouth open, don't complain 'cause you can't get sh*t.

The feeling of NOT telling and wondering later is far, far far far far far FAR FAR FAR FAR...get it?...FAR!!! worse then just getting it out and maybe getting a polite no.



FAR!

 

[Raven]

I'm quite shy when it comes to telling people how i really feel, and i'm quite reserved [ keep stuff to myself ] (unless i have had shit loads to drink - like now). I lent her my jacket for the way home and need to get it back in the up and coming days *aka tomorrow or the day after* but i'm worried about the aqwark silence that might happen when i go to her house to pick it up.

So bascily i'm asking what to do..

i know what you mean, but going around to pick up your jacket is the perfect oportunity to ask her if she fancies going out for a meal/drink/movie, whichever you think she would prefer. i think the hardest part is actually finding a reason to speak to someone, you have already got one

 

[Elkie]

What raven said really i think its wise you ask to see if you want to go out for a meal sometime rather than her maybe eding up going out with some1 else in upcoming weeks which hurts. Go for it m8

 

[Marc]

Take her to the Leeds game tonight!! She will love you forever!!

Seriously though, whats the worst that can happen? She can turn you down, thats it. If you dont ask her you will be thinking "what if, what if".

 

[old.Tohtori]

Well,dinner at the age of 18 can be as as simple as "Wanna hit the mac?"

Just see if she even wants to hang, and not go right ahead and "let's sexor our pantzor!! be my sweet luveyduvey!"

 

[Cylian]

if you don't ask her, it's as if she says "No" with a 100% chance.
if you do ask her, it's 50% "Yes" 50% "No".

 

[eggy]

You're 18 not 30, don't be shy about it.

I personally believe in the three-strike rule: every girl gets a maximum of 3 money-spending 'dates' (can include takeaway at home, meal out, club, pubs, bowling, cinema, whatever). If she hasn't made a move by strike 3, make some moves and if nothing still, drop it.

Fuck the nerves, just bottle up some confidence and talk to her. You only really ask girls out when you're a teenager. Normally it'll just happen if you push the right hints.

 

[Rediknight]

I know you said you're shy, but if you're going to get your coat just go round there and tell her what a great time you had the other night and it made a change to hang out with her again - maybe you guys should hook up more often, what's she doing this weekend? Don't try suggesting anything that is too blatantly an attempt to get her alone, but don't get her to come out to a bar with a load of mates.

When she says she fancies your mate, that means nothing when sober, tbh. Fancying someone and wanting to have a relationship with them are something completely different - i fancy tons of chicks who i'd never ever consider having a relationship and if i ever stop fancying random women, even if i was married, i'd have to wonder if i'd stopped being alive. It's part and parcel.

If she's genuine good company, just enjoy that and build on it, but tell her you enjoy being around her. Treat her like a mate, but notice when she has her hair done, or she's wearing a nice pair of shoes, or if she's lost weight. believe me, women appreciate it when guys surprise them and notice these things like a mate would, and it gives a great confidence booster

 

[Maff]

well you got to ask her mate one way try could be.
when she thanks you for the lend of your coat just say its no problem and you be more than happy to lean her it again.
maybe sat night as you had a great night and would be nice to see her again.
there all ways the pics then maybe for a drink or bite to eat aftre.

but you got to let us all know m8 as we'll all need to know if we to buy a new hat aka cilla black

 

[Howley]

women arent all the same tbh, but generally when she says she still fancies ur m8...
then she is prob just trying to tease u into her and let u know she is forbidden fruit (which is a good thing)
unless ofc she asked u to go over and get him for her ? . .
be confident m8, its ur life and ur world...live it to the full and
make yourself happy and go for ur goals !
who else is going to do it for u ? .. no1 .. so imo do it m8, NO FEAR !

 

[evzy]

Tell her when you see her next you need her advice, tell her your mate is worrying you as you have caught him browsing tubgirl type sites and ordering weird leather masks off the internet (that should either get him out of the picture or backfire in a comdeyesque way when she whips out her very own gimp mask and goes "ooo thats the best news ever")

Then go in with the line - "Even though my mate said you couldnt kiss and were a complete minger I have always thought you were the most ~blah blah blah blah blah~-Insert corny line here" That should totally get the mate outta the picture and leave you in with a chance....

Failing that...kill her and keep her head on a stick in your basement as a warning to all your future girlfriends that they better not mess you about!!

 

[Darksword]

get your jacket back before she steals it, grebby bitch....

(id go with the first reply)

 

[tris-]

she likes your mate? ok buy the following -

a balaclava
some black clothes
a kazoo

dress up in your gear. when hes out and about, stalk him till he is somewhere dark. run circles around him (staying hidden) blowing the kazoo. the kazoo will make him think wtf and he wont notice someone is moving about. then he will walk off thinking just about the kazoo sounds and wont be ready to move fast. then jump him, smash his face on the floor and break one of his ankles.

when he is fucked up, i would assume that girl is shallow enough not to care for him. because his face is buggerd and he cant walk. then you can make a move.

 

[Melachi]

Tell me this, do you get the feeling she fancies you?

Second, DO NOT pour your heart out too her when you go to get your jacket, you will be disappointed. Depending on how hot she is, don't complement her much, if at all. Show some interest, but don't display the fact that you are really into this girl.

Reason for this is, if you get the feeling she is even just a little interested in you, then the chase is on, if it stops being a chase and you just present yourself on a plate she will bail out. She is only mentioning your friend to make you jealous, or to see if your interested. How do I know this? Why the hell else would she tell you crap like this, this is the sort of thing girls tell each other, not to blokes, unless she thinks you have no willy, it's a bit of a test shes putting to you.

When you go over to get your jacket, don't go, "Hey I came over to get my jacket, ps I love you". Play it cool, be confident and funny, say something like "Hey I came over to ask you, did you by any chance see the face of that chav that robbed my jacket last night?".

Give more info and we can help more

 

[Mey]

I think im just going to treat how i normally do then go from there, cheers for the advice.

I'd take some dutch courage but i have to drive to get to her house :X

 

[Melachi]

I think im just going to treat how i normally do then go from there, cheers for the advice.

I'd take some dutch courage but i have to drive to get to her house :X

Let us know how you get on

 

[Marc]

Just be yourself too. Dont try and be something that you arent.

 

[old.Tohtori]

I think im just going to treat how i normally do then go from there, cheers for the advice.

Be careful of the friend zone man....

-Don't- treat her as you would a friend.

Hands up who has heard one or all of the following:

But i thought we were just friends.

You're such a good friend.

I'm not ready for anything big, but we can still be friends.

Hey, is your mate taken?

Da dum di dum dum f*ck off.

 

[eggy]

Just be yourself too. Dont try and be something that you arent.

 

[Marc]

Lol Rod!

 

[eggy]

Lol Rod!

I'm sorry, I had to show it! Any pictures of you and your 'girl'friend are required viewing on FH!!!

 

[Bahumat]

just say "i know bahumat" and she will be all over you!

 

[Rhori]

You're such a good friend.

the girl who told me that, is now my girl friend just wanted to share that

 

[old.Tohtori]

the girl who told me that, is now my girl friend just wanted to share that

You freak.

Stop messing with the cosmic balance

Yeah i know, things tend to go upsidaisypushing sometimes.

 

[Garok]

Mey pretty much every bloke goes through something like this more than a few times in life ^^ ! If you directly say "i fancy you blah blah" worst that can happen is she says "no" then goes back out with your friend (no idea how they split up so cant comment on the likelyhood of that happening) so always try to aviod that kind of approach.

Best bet is go to pick you coat up (around 7 ish) have a chat and she what shes upto that day if shes got nothing planned say "your not up to much either" do you want to go for a "quiet drink nothing heavy". Head to a quietish pub/bar (ie not the sort of place were blokes comment on the size of her Norks!). Offer to buy the first round but try to aviod going ott in a I will pay for everything kind of way (migth be the done thing in the 1940's but in 2000+ spanks of desperation). Find out what she likes.. TV films etc, if she says ooo I dieing to see "insurt random film here" if its the kind of film that you could get away with saying you want to see aswell then suggest would she want to go see it next week (if its some kind of trashy J-Lo style Fem-Com count your lucky stars and run now matter how fine she is its not worth sitting through 2 hours of that kind of turgid shit).

At the end of the day its far easier to read body language to tell if she likes you rather than the "I realy like you" kind of way. Easier for her aswell if she does like you she will resipricate your actions, if shes not interested in that way she wont, just aviods the "i like you as a friend" .. cheque please kind of sinario ... and you both save face.

If it all goes well and good thats cool, if it doesn't you can be glad you can aviod the kind of conversations with your friend when he says "Don't she make funny noises when you do her from behind" ...

What ever the out come try to look at the positives how ever stupid they may seem (ie the comment above) !

 

[[SS]Gamblor]

she likes your mate? ok buy the following -

a balaclava
some black clothes
a kazoo

dress up in your gear. when hes out and about, stalk him till he is somewhere dark. run circles around him (staying hidden) blowing the kazoo. the kazoo will make him think wtf and he wont notice someone is moving about. then he will walk off thinking just about the kazoo sounds and wont be ready to move fast. then jump him, smash his face on the floor and break one of his ankles.

when he is fucked up, i would assume that girl is shallow enough not to care for him. because his face is buggerd and he cant walk. then you can make a move.

Now that is classic stuff.

And it works

But seriously , if you wana mess up your friends chances start a rumor that the has a Shemale fetish , Then just innocently say that he still likes her , something about her being very masculin ( not something you see ofc )

 

[- English -]

play it cool

if she likes you she will show it

then you grab the money while the till is open

p.s tell us how it goes