How hard can it be? :'(

[Nomans Land]

Fucking hard for me so far im telling you that.

I seen a post awhile on the boards about a guy who lost his first GF to another guy and he was cut up about it. I couldnt understand how at the time, while I was still going out with mine, but now I know.

Yea im only 17 in a week and you may call it puppy love, and so do I, but fuck sake if this is what puppy love does then what the hell is the real thing like?

8months 3weeks. She meant, and still does mean the world to me. She changed my life, and that is no lie, none of you will prove that wrong. And I know its for the better that I broke up with her coz we fought so much but FUCK!!! I miss her so much after only 2days.

Ive Cried quite a few times, and atm im balling my eyes out as I started to type her an email asking to be friends even though she said she didnt want to be, and then she signed into MSN... just seeing her name pop up made me weak.

In the last 4months of our relationship I was growing further away from her, not being as sweet to her as I should have and I didnt feel the love any more. But I know she loved me, she may not have shown it much but damn she did and why did I have to go waste it all?

I had a temper when I was in primary school, really bad, but it had gone in secondary as I didnt get bullied as much. But just because I expected so much from a relationship it would make me mad if the stuff I expected didnt happen. And in that last 4months I started treating her real bad because of it.

I didnt hit her, I would never hit a woman and espically not my GF or wife. If I did I would leave that person straight away untill I got myself sorted out.

This world is cruel no lie. And it only gets worse. Love is a strong and messed up word. And its a very powerful thing as I have now learnt. The love I have for her will never leave me like I said because she changed my life. But I dont want to go back out with her because I think we both have had enough hurt and I need to learn to control my temper.

All I want is to be her friend, and she said so herself (quote) "I think we get along better as friends" so why cant we be now? She knows I would expect anything of her as shes not my GF. She always said it was bad to expect things, true, but if you dont expect to be treated different by your GF then why the hell are they your GF? You might as well be friends if you treat each no different than you would if you were friends.

Love Hurts. Alot.

Sorry I just needed to get it all out somewhere. And atm I have no body to talk to.

 

[Jupitus]

Fucking hard for me so far im telling you that.

I seen a post awhile on the boards about a guy who lost his first GF to another guy and he was cut up about it. I couldnt understand how at the time, while I was still going out with mine, but now I know.

Yea im only 17 in a week and you may call it puppy love, and so do I, but fuck sake if this is what puppy love does then what the hell is the real thing like?

8months 3weeks. She meant, and still does mean the world to me. She changed my life, and that is no lie, none of you will prove that wrong. And I know its for the better that I broke up with her coz we fought so much but FUCK!!! I miss her so much after only 2days.

Ive Cried quite a few times, and atm im balling my eyes out as I started to type her an email asking to be friends even though she said she didnt want to be, and then she signed into MSN... just seeing her name pop up made me weak.

In the last 4months of our relationship I was growing further away from her, not being as sweet to her as I should have and I didnt feel the love any more. But I know she loved me, she may not have shown it much but damn she did and why did I have to go waste it all?

I had a temper when I was in primary school, really bad, but it had gone in secondary as I didnt get bullied as much. But just because I expected so much from a relationship it would make me mad if the stuff I expected didnt happen. And in that last 4months I started treating her real bad because of it.

I didnt hit her, I would never hit a woman and espically not my GF or wife. If I did I would leave that person straight away untill I got myself sorted out.

This world is cruel no lie. And it only gets worse. Love is a strong and messed up word. And its a very powerful thing as I have now learnt. The love I have for her will never leave me like I said because she changed my life. But I dont want to go back out with her because I think we both have had enough hurt and I need to learn to control my temper.

All I want is to be her friend, and she said so herself (quote) "I think we get along better as friends" so why cant we be now? She knows I would expect anything of her as shes not my GF. She always said it was bad to expect things, true, but if you dont expect to be treated different by your GF then why the hell are they your GF? You might as well be friends if you treat each no different than you would if you were friends.

Love Hurts. Alot.

Sorry I just needed to get it all out somewhere. And atm I have no body to talk to.

Know what ya mean

 

[Garnet]

Hope things work out. But at least you two arent like my mates GF - loses temper, smashes his windows, cracks him over the head with a teapot , tries turning friends against you (tried with me once), denys him of sex. Such pain indeed ;x

 

[Marc]

You are only 16. Give it time, you will get over it.

 

[Panasonic]

I know what you mean m8 I had a girlfriend for 4 and a half years, until she left me on my birthday (nice present don't you think), with no explanation at all, it did hurt, tought i was never gonna get over it, but hey look at me now, i have another GF we live together and are thinking about babies In the end it allways ends up fine m8, don't worry and carry on with your life :wub:

greetings,

Duvelken
Offi of BokkeRijders

 

[eggy]

Yea im only 17 in a week and you may call it puppy love, and so do I, but fuck sake if this is what puppy love does then what the hell is the real thing like?

Really, really, really fucking hard. Fair enough, you're 16, so instinctively people would assume that it's only a school-boy relationship. However, those that have been there could understand differently. It doesn't matter how old you are, or how experienced you get - if someone comes into your life that changes the way you feel, heightens your emotions and/or gives you a sense of completeness...it will only cause hurt when things come to an end.

8months 3weeks. She meant, and still does mean the world to me. She changed my life, and that is no lie, none of you will prove that wrong. And I know its for the better that I broke up with her coz we fought so much but FUCK!!! I miss her so much after only 2days.

Nobody will try and prove that she didn't mean anything to you. You wouldn't be writing this post if she didn't. Everyone fights, it's a sad fact of life. Fair enough, there are a lot of couples out there who would say they never argue or strike a crossed blow, but for the most this is an impossibility. In fact, arguing in the most cases is actually an indication that you care about each other. But as you no doubt know, it's also a spiral of diminishing returns...arguments lead to hurt...leads to arguments...etc.

Ive Cried quite a few times, and atm im balling my eyes out as I started to type her an email asking to be friends even though she said she didnt want to be, and then she signed into MSN... just seeing her name pop up made me weak.

Ok I know this one so well. There really is only one thing you can do, and it sounds like such a cliche. Give it time. If we're being honest, there really is no way you can go into a friendship with someone straight after 8 months being together constantly. It just won't work. It might seem like a good idea at the time, but familiar arguments will come up...there's simply too many emotions flying round the room to understand at this stage. It took me <works it out> 16 months to become friends with my first girlfriend after we split up. We tried repeatedly, but it only ends in arguments and fighting. Once the feelings of want, lust, love...whatever...disappear, it's far easier to make an accord.

In the last 4months of our relationship I was growing further away from her, not being as sweet to her as I should have and I didnt feel the love any more. But I know she loved me, she may not have shown it much but damn she did and why did I have to go waste it all?

Once again, that's just life. When you start off with someone (as I am at the moment actually), you wonder how anything could possibly go wrong...how could your feelings for each other change? There's no answer really...they just do. Personally I've been through relationships where I've tried to change myself to make it work after things get doubtful. Don't. If love for someone fades away, there isn't anything you can do about it.

This world is cruel no lie. And it only gets worse. Love is a strong and messed up word. And its a very powerful thing as I have now learnt. The love I have for her will never leave me like I said because she changed my life. But I dont want to go back out with her because I think we both have had enough hurt and I need to learn to control my temper.

Couldn't really have said it better myself. At least you're facing up to reality. The world can be cruel, this is true...but the smallest thing can flip that opinion. I'm sure you weren't saying this 6 months ago. You'll always have ups and downs, especially where the opposite sex is involved. I've had it all...happiness, love, fear, hate etc...you just have to keep your chin up, and in a matter of time (be it a day, a week, a month - whatever), you'll find something else to make you smile.

All I want is to be her friend, and she said so herself (quote) "I think we get along better as friends" so why cant we be now? She knows I would expect anything of her as shes not my GF. She always said it was bad to expect things, true, but if you dont expect to be treated different by your GF then why the hell are they your GF? You might as well be friends if you treat each no different than you would if you were friends.

Not to destroy your hopes and dreams here, but there is a BIG difference between being friends after a relationship and just being friends from the outset. At the end, you might have felt like you were "friends" but you weren't. You were lovers lacking the massive emotions you had started to build up. An empty relationship is not the same as being friends. You can't be friends now for the reasons I described above. Time is needed.

Love Hurts. Alot.

Broken love hurts...love itself only makes you more complete.

Sorry I just needed to get it all out somewhere. And atm I have no body to talk to.

I've added you to MSN if you want a neutral opinion. But I'll be honest, just like I have been in this post.

All the best mate.

 

[Eroa]

Broken love sucks. Get over it, move on, or you'll stay stuck forever.

 

[Nomans Land]

Well I know it sounds cruel but I got a friend of mine in Canada to spy abit for me and got this:

And the last line just cuts a slit in my throat, I guess I should move on to after she thought I would be the one that would move on straight away and not care about breaking up, it seems the tables have turned. And her MSN name 'Yummy yummy yummy I got love in my tummy and I feel like im loving you'.

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

well i thought it might be a good idea but after he treated me i just can't, he was too horrible to me, i'm not friends with people like that

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

i just don't know

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

*after how he treated me

courtney says:

oh

courtney says:

well has he even tried to be friends?

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

yeah

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

sent me an email cuz we aren't on each others MSNs or AOLs phones etc but i didn't reply and frankly idon't intend to

courtney says:

how come, do u just not wanna make things worse

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

yeah cuz i just can't talk to him right now, every time he gets in contact with me i feel so angry

Rach - drayven.tk - "Anarchy For The UK" says:

i've been in total awesome moods since we split tho it's great

 

[Apathy]

~phones the Homo Council~

"WE HAVE INCOMING!!! GET THE PREP ROOM READY!!!"

a.
*

 

[eggy]

www.girlsandboys.org.uk

 

[Repent Reloaded]

Fucking hard for me so far im telling you that.

I seen a post awhile on the boards about a guy who lost his first GF to another guy and he was cut up about it. I couldnt understand how at the time, while I was still going out with mine, but now I know.

Yea im only 17 in a week and you may call it puppy love, and so do I, but fuck sake if this is what puppy love does then what the hell is the real thing like?

8months 3weeks. She meant, and still does mean the world to me. She changed my life, and that is no lie, none of you will prove that wrong. And I know its for the better that I broke up with her coz we fought so much but FUCK!!! I miss her so much after only 2days.

Ive Cried quite a few times, and atm im balling my eyes out as I started to type her an email asking to be friends even though she said she didnt want to be, and then she signed into MSN... just seeing her name pop up made me weak.

In the last 4months of our relationship I was growing further away from her, not being as sweet to her as I should have and I didnt feel the love any more. But I know she loved me, she may not have shown it much but damn she did and why did I have to go waste it all?

I had a temper when I was in primary school, really bad, but it had gone in secondary as I didnt get bullied as much. But just because I expected so much from a relationship it would make me mad if the stuff I expected didnt happen. And in that last 4months I started treating her real bad because of it.

I didnt hit her, I would never hit a woman and espically not my GF or wife. If I did I would leave that person straight away untill I got myself sorted out.

This world is cruel no lie. And it only gets worse. Love is a strong and messed up word. And its a very powerful thing as I have now learnt. The love I have for her will never leave me like I said because she changed my life. But I dont want to go back out with her because I think we both have had enough hurt and I need to learn to control my temper.

All I want is to be her friend, and she said so herself (quote) "I think we get along better as friends" so why cant we be now? She knows I would expect anything of her as shes not my GF. She always said it was bad to expect things, true, but if you dont expect to be treated different by your GF then why the hell are they your GF? You might as well be friends if you treat each no different than you would if you were friends.

Love Hurts. Alot.

Sorry I just needed to get it all out somewhere. And atm I have no body to talk to.

......dude, get some fucking balls!





j/k, I lost my first love when I was ur age and Im still pissed off about it now

Hope it works out lad and try not to fall in love again till ur past 25.

 

[Tallen]

All I want is to be her friend, and she said so herself (quote) "I think we get along better as friends" so why cant we be now? She knows I would expect anything of her as shes not my GF. She always said it was bad to expect things, true, but if you dont expect to be treated different by your GF then why the hell are they your GF? You might as well be friends if you treat each no different than you would if you were friends.

This "being friends" thing is usually just a way to soften the blow, for some inexplicable reason people seem to think that using this line helps after breaking the news that they want to break-up.

First love is always special, its one of those things you never forget, but if its over, its over and best no to prolong the agony. Move on as soon as you are ready and dont let it consume you too much, its not easy and its still going to hurt for a while but dont worry.....you will find someone else.

 

[Sissyfoo]

From what I read, you need to back off and leave her alone so she can do some thinking. Go to anger management classes or smoke a phat one every night until you chill the fuck out and then try to patch things up.

Breaking up sucks (getting dumped is even worse ) but it isn't the end of the world. You will get over her but it will take a few months or longer. You may want to be friends now but think of this; how will you feel when she gets a new b/f and starts banging him? It will cut you deeper than any knife! Better to get rid of all those feelings before you start chatting again imho.

Oh yea, cliché alert, you will find someone else eventually. Billions of women out there to choose from. Odds are you will get lucky at least 3 more times in your life...mebbe even more. :-o

 

[Pippic]

see? this is why "knullkompisar" is so much better

 

[Asha]

Hope things work out. But at least you two arent like my mates GF - loses temper, smashes his windows, cracks him over the head with a teapot , tries turning friends against you (tried with me once), denys him of sex. Such pain indeed ;x

is that the one you fancy?
explains alot !

 

[Garnet]

is that the one you fancy?
explains alot !

Err no I just hate her alot. Kinda abit like you jk

 

[Aoami]

drink yourself into oblivion and you'll ahve forgotten by the morning.

dry your eyes mate
i know its hard to take but her mind has been made up
theres plenty more fish in the sea

i'm sure i posted QQ in this thread

 

[Nomans Land]

Mostly a reply to the last 4 posts or so:

Yes there are alot of loverly ladys out there, but remember I did say I didnt want to go back out with her at all (I think I did anyway) because there was to much hurt in the relationship.

And Sissy after reading that email I got off my friend spying for me (written earlier) I decided I would move on with my life. It maybe only because we broke up and shes feeling its hard to but from what she said about not intending to reply to my email and from the looks of whats being going on she has forgotten about me already so im not going to waste my time running after her to be friends. If she wants to be in the future fair enough.

But atm im trying to move on and forget her, I been trying this hard, and even deleted all her MSN names so I dont have to see them blocked, some things just still remind me of her.

Like last night I was just happily playing DAoC and for some reason I just had this strange feeling in my stomach the whole night even though I wasnt thinking about her I knew it was because of her. And the strange things like watching Big Brother make me remmeber her coz we talked about it so damn much.

One thing im REALLY missing atm though is just the big long fone chats we had at night, every night, just lasting like 3-4hours.