Going away is teh hard

[Dukat]

Hey all

Looks like I'm off to middlesborough again tomorow, this time to pick up my motorbike D).

Anyways, to the point!

I'm 21 and have lived "at home" all my life, untill I went the last time I had never been away from "home" for more than a week, then I left for two months on work, got back three weeks ago and now I'm off again, probably not for as long but its a strange thing, the more I'm away from home, the more I seem to be drawn away.

I would imagine that alot of you people posting here are older and wiser than me(ok so maybe just older ), and have been away alot more. I find it really strange though, being away, not being at home, the feel of being somewhere new, and enjoying it but still half wanting to be back in familiar surroundings.

Leaving the first time was really hard - knowing I'd be away for months for the first time, going away this time isnt as bad obviously, but I still feel almost like I did as before I went the last time.

I'm likely to be going away alot more and for longer periods of time very soon, and wonder if people can ever truely leave everything behind, as in the people, the scenery and the lifestyle, and just go off somewhere new without looking back? Is this what its like once you've travelled a bit?

I just find it hard to imagine not having a place that is "home", having had one for 21 years, and I wonder what it would be like to be constantly on the move, without any real place to go, obviously people must live in this situation, but I wonder what it would be like

I always get all profound before I go off somewhere new how do you lot handle it?

 

[tris-]

I'm likely to be going away alot more and for longer periods of time very soon, and wonder if people can ever truely leave everything behind, as in the people, the scenery and the lifestyle, and just go off somewhere new without looking back? Is this what its like once you've travelled a bit?

hey dukat.

i havent done it but my best mate left to goto manchester uni about 5 years ago and he made a decission after 2 years not to come back to boro to live. now hes doing a PhD and lives in his own executive appartment with his girl friend.

so im guessing after a while it isnt so hard to live somewhere new and who knows whats gonna happen.

 

[evzy]

Statistically most people who leave home get shot or stabbed within the first 6 months...if they last that long then they are more prone to being trampled by wild boar or rather large turtles...


Good Luck!

 

[Lamp]

Don't think of it in terms of "handling it" or "not handling it". Think positive. Its a new challenge. An exciting thing. New horizons. Adventures. Experience. Its not a prison sentence. You'll make lots of new friends. Enjoy it. And remember its only a car / bike / train journey back home worse comes to worse !

Blog how you get on

 

[Tilda]

I've almost lived away from home for the last 2 years due to uni.
This summer i've hardly been back due to various holidays etc.
Off to botswana on monday, need to start thinking what to take! Thats hard

 

[- English -]

isnt that the place with many queers tilda?

 

[Pawn]

My opinion for what it's worth:

Life is a series of chapters, you're starting a new chapter which is in effect an adventure, enjoy it! No doubt in a few years time you will "move on" again, another chapter, enjoy it! Of course you're pulled back to "at home" it's security, it's what you've known most of your life....but....you're adult life is just beginning, you've got a lot of different paths to take and a lot of different doorways to go through, could go anywhere, scary but exciting. As for "home" that will be where you make it, hopefully you won't be constantly on the move for ever!!

Enjoy your adventures, wish I was 21 again

 

[Samaroon|Terracotta]

Try not to get cancer or something going to Boro, i hear them smoke clouds are deadly! :/

The only time i've been away from home aswell for over 1 day is when i went down Northampton to visit a mate. S'pose it's better if you're going to see people you know, but if you're moving to a new place and having to meet new people it'll be hard So good luck etc ;p

 

[Lamp]

Off to botswana on monday, need to start thinking what to take! Thats hard

All you need is a strong pair of multi-reversable underpants, a toothbrush, and a large collection of Lord Denning's case law ! Don't sleep with local women there !

 

[Steffan-]

Well I moved to my own flat when I were nearly 19, and I'm soon 22 now. Wasn't that hard tbh, but I've never spent much time at home the last couple of years I lived there, mainly because I were at my girlfriend at that time the most.
And tbh, I quite enjoy it when there's noone else around but myself to take care of, so I can do all the daft shit I want to xD

But I also enjoy commin' back home to visit my parents once in a while, and seeing the rest of the family.

I really can't remember how my first couple of months living on my own were, but I seem to recall a feeling of "pissed-offness" of havein' to do my own shopping xD

 

[Sparx]

i moved out of scotland when i was 16 (24 now) to live in London (in the army)

When i left the army i decided to stay here. Not gonna lie there are times i wanted to move back, you will always get the feeling you want to go back

This year tho i made the decision i wont be going back to live.

It is tough to move away but by god it can be one of the best things you do. Move away make sure you got plenty of friends around you cause they will be you family (were in my case). I even spend christmas with my friends etc now

 

[-Freezingwiz-]

I moved away from my parrents about 2 year ago(23 now), and I can't really say I'm missing living there

I never spend much time at home except when I was playing computer, else I were working or with some friends, about the same as I do now at my own place, except I can make all the noise I wanna do (only had a few complaints so far from the guy that live below me ) unlike my dad when I lived home woh complained a lot about high music

and my smaller brother calls me like 2 times a day just to chat a bit about something no one care about and my parrents calls a if I come by and eat at there place, then my mom can wash some of my dirty stuff aswell when I'm there(good reason to go there + free food ), so its not like I'm not in contact with em, cuz they keep calling all the time (can be annoying at times :/)


but the diffrend childhood have a lot to do if u miss your parrents/family etc when u are a way, I always enjoyed getting away from them as a child/teen fx.

 

[Naetha]

I left home when I was 17, but due to crappy familyness, I hadn't really had a "home" as such since I'd been about 15. Once you realise that where you're from will still be there when you get back, I don't think its such a drag. I suppose a lot of it depends on what home means to you. Is it having your parents cooking your food and doing your washing? Is it going out with your friends to the same place every friday night? Is it the place itself?

When I moved from North Wales to Leeds, what I missed most were the mountains. I miss my family and friends to a certain extent, but they weren't the be all and end all of my teenage life.

What I'm basically saying, is that moving away isn't necessarily a bad thing, and can often be a very good thing, just make the most of it that you can

 

[Thorwyn]

Leaving home is an important step. You might be scared now, but you´ll soon love the independance and the enhanced responsibility. Hey, even shopping in the supermarket, deciding what you need to eat and drink is fun for a while.

All in all... you´ll get used to it, no worries. Leave your parents as eary as possible (if it´s at a reasonable stage that is), it really pays off.

 

[Tilda]

isnt that the place with many queers tilda?

na, homosexuality is illegal there acctually.
I'll be fine, you'll be unlucky if you try to get a visa though jimbo.

 

[Hansmoleman]

i wanna move out of scunthorpe when i get a bit older, this place is a boring shithole =/