Sex erm... not sure of a title for this one..

[Mey]

So yeh basicly, I work pretty much everyday of the week and alot of the time I work with alot of people older than I am and we have been through alot of situtations where we have had to trust and relay on each other to make the right judgements. Recently I have been spending alot of my money buying other people stuff, not because I feel the need to but more because I feel that if I don't buy said people stuff they will disappear and I will lsoe the 'friendships' I hold close too myself to keep myself sane..

But recently I have been thinking alot more about these relationships and whether or not they are true or just based on the fact that yeh! Mey will get us drunk for free! A consequence of this is that I have reassessed all my relationships and I have come to the conclusion that I'd value the input of "boss" (old enough to be my dad anyway) over that of my dad. Is this wrong?

 

[Punishment]

People should take you for what you are , if it isn't enough they arent worth having as friends , simple

Just because people grow apart doesn't mean you should feel you need to work for the friendship , it just happens , and its only in doing this you will come to a place where you can make/meet new and very close friends for life .

When we go through school/uni we are kinda forced into social circles its only as an adult we get to really choose our friends and they are the family we get to pick , hehe .

 

[Raven]

Stop buying your "friends" stuff. Those that are still around when you do that you can consider to be true friends.

 

[fettoken]

Stop sacrificing yourself to these people if you feel they wouldnt not give the same thing back to you.

 

[Mey]

ARGH! Why do i drink so much jager! TBH!.

Sorry /ignore drunken post above, I totally know what i need to do.. >:

 

[Bahumat]

To be honest Mey, you don't want 'friends' who only like you for your perks. It's like you're Jay-Z or some other famous person, and they are all the 'hangers on'.

A proper friend does not require gifts. If you enjoy each others company and have similar interests, that's all there is to it.

Some friendships work in a 70/30 fashion. You may be the one who always calls to meet up or do something etc. I don't even think it's lazyness. Just with some friendships you have to work a bit harder to keep it going...however this is simply a matter of being the one who makes the calls to go out.

 

[old.Tohtori]

Some friendships work in a 70/30 fashion. You may be the one who always calls to meet up or do something etc. I don't even think it's lazyness. Just with some friendships you have to work a bit harder to keep it going...however this is simply a matter of being the one who makes the calls to go out.

This is why i've dropped a majority of friendships now.

I got absolutely f*cking bored that i was expected to call, to keep up communication etc. Even expected to be the one who notices eachother in a bar(people would get pissy if i didn't, while they watched me walk about).

So i stopped and maybe two peeps still contacted. Those people are still around, rest are gods know where.

Mey, it's a no brainer but think you know that.

 

[Madmaxx]

This is why i've dropped a majority of friendships now.

I got absolutely f*cking bored that i was expected to call, to keep up communication etc. Even expected to be the one who notices eachother in a bar(people would get pissy if i didn't, while they watched me walk about).

So i stopped and maybe two peeps still contacted. Those people are still around, rest are gods know where.

Mey, it's a no brainer but think you know that.

same with me, and qft.

 

[cHodAX]

This is why i've dropped a majority of friendships now.

I got absolutely f*cking bored that i was expected to call, to keep up communication etc. Even expected to be the one who notices eachother in a bar(people would get pissy if i didn't, while they watched me walk about).

So i stopped and maybe two peeps still contacted. Those people are still around, rest are gods know where.

Mey, it's a no brainer but think you know that.

You know what, in many ways that is the best post you have made on here, the experience rings true with many of us I bet.

 

[Mey]

Well I did it I didn't go out tonight with the 'free loaders' and guess what not a single one of them has text/phoned me to ask where I am or how I am.

Guess i'll be binning them off! Sharpish.

 

[fettoken]

Well I did it I didn't go out tonight with the 'free loaders' and guess what not a single one of them has text/phoned me to ask where I am or how I am.

Guess i'll be binning them off! Sharpish.

Or you could use them for your own purposes.

 

[xomer]

Unfortunately, to find a true friend who can help you in every situation that you are is very difficult nowdays.

The majority of the people are looking for their own good and only.

When i was 19 years old i had plenty of ''friends'', at this moment i have only 2.

 

[Fafnir]

Unfortunately, to find a true friend who can help you in every situation that you are is very difficult nowdays.

The majority of the people are looking for their own good and only.

When i was 19 years old i had plenty of ''friends'', at this moment i have only 2.

Yup, so many people would just leave you high and dry if it could save their own skin. Dropped a lot of so called friends over the years. To me friendship is 50/50, but some people just make it all about themselves.

But do you really need that many friends? I´m quite content with the two i got, we make Stockholm unsafe.

 

[Helme]

I'd rather have two good friends than a dozen half assed ones tbh.