Dilemma....

[Thorwyn]

I´m currently looking for a new job and ... tadaaa ... got an offer. Or wait! Actually it´s two offers!

1. Get a REALLY cool job in a top level lead position, but have to move to another town *far* away from my hometown, leaving my friends and family behind (mind you: my parents are both pretty ill and I don´t know how long they got left.. so moving probably means I`ll never see them again).

2. Found a new company with my old team, all people I really love to work with. Don´t have to move, but the work is slightly less cool and it´s a higher risk.

What

To

Do

????

 

[megadave]

how far you talking?

 

[Lethul]

2. option imho.

 

[Bahumat]

due to what you said about parents, choose option 2.

 

[tris-]

Do which option you want to do imo.

 

[Thorwyn]

how far you talking?

600+ km... but there are other circumstances making it pretty hard to just "take a plane for a trip".

Do which option you want to do imo.

Of course! But.. I don´t know what I want. It´s two options, both have their drawbacks, both are tempting.

 

[liloe]

Well, considering the situation in Germany at the moment, going for the safer job would be more rational, but I can understand your emotional reasoning as well.

Being a more rational person (also called "emotional as a stone by my girlfriend"), I would tend to option 1. Now this might sound harsh, but hey, you asked for answers You should ask yourself, if your parents would want you to take them into account when taking such a decision and if I was the parents, I'd tell my children to do what's better for them. My mother left her homecountry and lives 900km away from her parents, but there was always the phone to keep contact. Yes, she was miles away when her father died and it was hard, but then again this one situation didn't make her regret living here.

Yes you might also lose contact to your friends, but I think when you're away, the real friends will become visible. You shouldn't stay somewhere because of other people, because no matter what happens, nowadays you can communicate by ICQ/Skype etc. and distance doesn't mean silence. I means it's not 600km, but when I changed university I had to leave friends behind, but after all it was better for me and now I try to meet up with them every time I'm near there.

Back to you … if your new job is so well-payed, then getting an ICE ticket to visit your parents shouldn't be so much of a problem I think.

Nobody can say what the future will bring, of course, but don't forget that your work is your daily life and if you enjoy that, you will feel much better about the whole thing, whereas you will hate yourself if you don't use a good opportunity.



P.S.: If option two means moving to Ludwigshafen or the Saarland, then option 2 is not an option

 

[adoNix]

Not to be an ass or anything..

But I'm sure your parents would be very happy if they knew you have a good job that you really enjoy instead of risking to be jobbless again in 6 months.
Whatever you chose to do will be the right thing tho
I wish you the best of luck.

 

[old.Tohtori]

To be cold;

You can't hold your parents hands all the time anyway, so chances are, you won't be there when they pass.

Friends, most of them will go somewhere anyway(hook up, work, etc), you shouldn't feel guilty about thinking about yourself.

With a better job, you can travel more, you'll secure your own future, your parents will be proud and all that.

So in a nutshell;

If you take the better job, you'll most likely lose friends and miss your parents going. You will be secure though and will be able to move more. If there's even a 12 hour limit, you'll be there for your parents if YOU want to be.

With the lesser job, your friends will most likely go somewhere and you're less likely to miss your parents going. Possibility with a high risk job, you might end up unemployed in your hometown and stuck in a rut.

 

[adoNix]

Basicly what i tried to say was what tohtori said.. but i failed!

 

[cHodAX]

I would have to say option 1 even though I am finding it impossible to move away from my own mother who has been unwell for a while now. If there was anyone else reliable in the family who could look out for her I would move tomorrow if the job was exactly what I wanted.

 

[Ezteq]

Whatever you do good luck with it sweetie, just make the choice that feels right for you xx

...now someone help get Toht out of that bloody nutshell